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Things I am grateful for on my 30th birthday

28 feb

Those who know me know that I love my birthday. And i mean LOVE. Weeks and months before the day itself I start looking forward to it. This time though, not so much… The number 30 scared me, and I was not entirely sure I wanted to leave my twenties just yet.

If I am honest it has mostly to do with the fact that I am 30 and single – and that was just not the plan. But then as the clock turned midnight last night and the day finally came, I was filled with this enormous feeling of gratitude. Gratitude for all the blessings I have in my life, and gratitude for life itself. So I started writing it down – and here it is.

I am grateful…

–  for still being aroung and being able to live to see this day. Many people around the world die before they ever see the age of 30…

– for all my wonderful friends – old and new alike. Thank you for bringing so much joy and love to my life.

– for my family. My father the sailor, my mother with the sensitive warmhearted artist soul, and my one of a kind precious brother. I love you to bits! 🙂 Same goes for my extended family of course, both blood and the other kind.

– for all the precious teachers I have had in my life. From my first teacher – my mother, to my grandma Eva who taught me reading, writing & math when I was 5 years old. My karate teacher Simon Chilembo who taught me to believe in myself and who gave me strength, confidence and the belief that it is OK to be yourself and to be loud and proud. All my school teachers along the way.  For all my past bosses who have taught me so much about business. Thank you for making me into who I am today.

– for yoga and the amazing changes it has brought to my life ❤ Thank you John for being my teacher and for bringing yoga and these precious teachings into my life. I am so grateful for the whole yoga community at Eight Treasures Yoga – you light up my life.

– for my health. At 30 I am stronger, healthier and in better shape than ever.

– for having a great job. I am blessed with a job that makes going to work a joy, and after holidays I actually look forward to going back and seeing my team and all my great colleagues again. You rock!

– for having a place to live, and even having the good fortune of owning an apartment. Yes it is small, but it is cosy and located in the best part of Oslo (in my humble opinion) – and it is home.

– for all the heartbreaks. Yes, there have been many… But I have never given up hope, and I am grateful that even after all that I still believe in love and am not afraid to open my heart again. And even though being single and 30 wasn’t really part of the plan I am OK with it, and I have a truckload of life lessons with me. I have a lot of love to give, so in the meantime I will try to give it to all the people who are in my life already.

– for love. Yes there have been heartbreaks, but there has also been love in my life. A LOT of love. And I am so grateful. To me love is the reason we are all here.

– for having had the good fortune of growing up in Norway. Several times over we have been named the best country in the world to live in – I can see why. I am humbled by my very fortunate circumstances and will do my best to give back to the less fortunate.

– for music. Music is one of my many passions, and I  cannot imagine my life without it. There is nothing like the right music to lift my spirits, and I have had so many unforgettable concert experiences.

– for karate and everything (and everyone) it has brought into my life.

– for all the places I have been. I LOVE to travel, and I am grateful for having been able to experience unforgettable trips to South Africa, Thailand, New York, Miami, countless countries in Europe as well as a road trip all the way from Minneapolis MN to Arizona, Los Angeles, San Diego, Las Vegas and then back to MN while studying in the US.

– for my love of books and movies. The ability to be totally absorbed in a story, whether while reading or watxhing a film is something I am very grateful for. Sometimes you just need to escape for a little while.

– for my positive outlook on life and my sense of humour. Crying until I laugh, or laughing until I cry.

– for all the inspirational people in the world. Writers, artists, politicians, freedom fighters, and people I meet every day.

– for all the happiness that fills my life – from the small stuff to the big stuff. It is all around – and I am very grateful for that.

– for all the lessons I have learned. Some have been hard, but they have all been important.

Thank you.

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The big stuff

7 apr

All that we have is a result of what we have thought

– Buddha

I’m gonna spare you for all the self-help mumbo jumbo, but I will say that I am reading a couple of very interesting books these days (opinions on these books differ from the people who feel it is all bulls**t to the ones who feel like they have found the answer to all life’s questions). What I love about these books is that they make me think about life from a different angle, and (sometimes) I learn something new that gives me a new insight about myself and others.

I have always been very interested in philosophy and religion and the bigger questions in life. When I was younger I was a sworn atheist and so sure that there was nothing else to this world than what you see. I used to think that religion was just a comfort to the people who were too weak to face the realities in life, mostly because that’s what my parents told me. I used to think that when you die there is just a big black hole of nothingness, and that’s pretty much the scariest thought I can imagine. During the years since then I have become more open to the possibility that there might be more to this world than what the eye can see, and though I doubt that I will ever feel like I have figured out how this life works I love to discuss and read about these things.

There is of course a big difference between religion and the self help books; where many religions center around some kind of God or higher power that we need to praise, the self help books tell us that all we need in order to find meaning in life and peace lies within us. But there are similarities as well. Both religion and the self help books seek to show us the road to a better life and seek to give us the answers to how we need to act in order to change our lives for the better – I guess that is partly what fascinates me.

Reading books about Yoga, Buddhism and even the famous «The Secret» lets me take a time out during the day to «get my head out of my ass» (so to speak) and think about the bigger things in life and the big questions. Sometimes it feels good to lose oneself in thoughts such as; Is there such a thing as a soul? Do we have life after death? Do the thoughts we think shape our lives in more ways than we think? Are all living things in the world somehow connected? Although I would like to find an answer to these I don’t necessarily feel like that is the goal, I just love pondering and considering the implications of the different possible answers.


Chaos theory or the power of negative thinking

20 sep
«The main precept behind this theory is the underlying notion of small occurrences significantly affecting the outcomes of seemingly unrelated events.»
Why is it that when some things start to go wrong, everything goes wrong? That somehow the one affects the other and that when many things like that happens they multiply? Is t that just chaos theory kicking in and that once shit hits the fan more shit keeps coming? Or is it that when bad things happen it is easier to shift into negative thinking, and therefore you only see the negative?

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

14 sep

After having spent a week and a half at my parents’ house I came back to my own apartment tonight after karate practise. As soon as I walked in the door I was surprised as to how good it felt to be back. It’s not that I don’t like my apartment – I really do – it’s just that I didn’t even know that I had missed it that much until I came back here again.

And that’s the way it always is isn’t it? At least for me it is. I need some time away sometimes in order to appreciate the good things in my life, be it people, my work, favorite music or even my hobbies. Yesterday I went to my first karate practise of the season (when we actually started back up after summer as long as four weeks ago…) and it felt really good to be back! To be honest I had been postponing it a bit, and some nights when I planned on going I just ended up staying home instead. Often with some «good» excuse like a headache or whatever (sounds like I was trying to skip out on something else… 😉 Perhaps I just needed a break – who knows… But the thing is that it was only when I finally dragged my lazy butt to practice yesterday that I really remembered how much fun I have training karate. It felt so good to be back that I now can’t seem to remember why I skipped practise at all anymore.

In a way I’m glad that my mind works like this because it means that I don’t have to worry if my interest for something fades in some periods of time, because it rarely lasts forever. Be it a project, a band I used to love or a sport I’ve trained for years. But it also makes me wonder why I cannot just appreciate these things every day? Why do I need a break in order to fully love it again? And why does this seem to be true in so many other areas in my life as well – like when it comes to boys for instance? I always seem to want what I can’t have. and what I can have is not that interesting… But that’s a whole blog post in itself.

Anyways… Food for thought I guess. All I know is I went to karate practice again and had a great time, so at least it wasn’t a one off. 😉